My mother is the state of Wisconsin’s youngest Polio survivor. She was just four or five years old when she beat the disease, and aside from a hearing defect she got out of that situation virtually unscathed. However, surviving the disease puts you at a significantly higher risk of developing debilitating diseases later in life. With a family history of dementia I was always told she’d likely have full-blown Alzheimer’s at a young age. Unfortunately it would seem that prediction has come to fruition, and frankly the changes were something I had seen in her for years. If that person isn’t willing to admit something is not right its impossible to get a diagnosis without very, very detailed logs about their behavior.
Personally, I was in a position where I could see things falling apart for her, but it took several years and family crises later to get anybody else onboard to deal with it. For people in that situation societal conventions for going to college, starting a career, or really any of that jazz genuinely do not apply. If you’re in that situation having anxiety about the situation is totally normal. While I cannot give you all the answers you’re looking for I do have some advice for how you can feel more comfortable moving out.
Something that we all know is easier said than done is getting power of attorney to be in control of somebody financial decisions, so you genuinely have no option but to get access to their online dealings: banking information, credit-card logins, email, if they’re doing something online with an account you need access to it. Aside from intentionally installing a virus on their computer the only way you’re going to be able to do this is with a password generation program like KeePass. Basically what you do is install it, create the database’s password, and teach them how to use it. If you help them switch everything over you’ll have a database of all their login info you can access on any computer, smartphone, tablet, etc.
With a freeware Virtual Network Computer Viewer (VNC Viewer) you do just that no cost. This is one of things where the setup varies application-to-application, but thankfully its all very well-documented and easy to understand if you’re not a techie like me. There are a lot of options out there for your to choose from. Personally, like to use RealVNC but feel free to explore your options.
For those of you who’ve never gone hunting before these gadgets are battery-powered motion-activated digital cameras. Often times their cases are painted with a camouflage pattern so they blend right in with the scenery, and some of the cameras can go months without need new batteries. If you don’t have a buddy who can pop out the SD card for your from time-to-time there are 3G-enabled trail cams as well. They start at just $50 and can go all the way up into the $500 or higher. These things are great alternative to more traditional home security devices. They’re great if you don’t have power of attorney and want to keep tabs on mail order purchases.
If you’ve found yourself in a similar situation to my own where a family member needs to be watched full-time, but you have to get started on a career, college, or whatever hopefully this advice can make you feel a bit more comfortable with the situation. When I have more ideas that I’ve tested I’ll be happy to post those too.